You Can Have it All, Just Not at the Same Time

Fairy Godmother Mary Wilson-Burkett, of Coaching Associates spoke for Start Up Princess this week on a national teleconference and also at our Utah Networking Tea Party Event. The events were awesome! Thanks to all who attended and joined us.

Enjoy my notes:

3 main points of the presentation, “You Can Have it All, Just Not at the Same Time”

1)We are all different

2) The phases in our lives give us different opportunities

3) Enjoy whatever it is that we are doing

Having it all at once generally doesn’t work, but we can have it all…if we are patient and persistent

Life expentancy: well into our 80’s because women generally don’t smoke, eating/exercising better, and wearing our seatbelts

Ecclessiastes 3:1 scripture says:

To everything there is a season,
a time for every purpose under the sun.

There are things we “should be doing” and what we may “want to be doing”

We may have an a-ha moment where we feel that we are supposed to be doing something (For example: Oprah feels her calling is her school for girls in Africa)

Develop A Mission Statement:

Is this what my mission statement should be at this time in my life?

12 guiding principles of living need to be changed (true to the season) of the season.

Today’s Magic Wand:

Discovery Exercise created by Mary:

1. Find a quiet place to sit with no distractions, relax your body from the feet up, once you are completely relaxed, pay attention to every muscle, close your eyes and just let you mind think about your life’s mission.

2. If your/as your thoughts are going to go all over the place, then plant one thought in your brain: “What is my purpose and my mission?” Let the thoughts come…distracting thoughts: I’m here to

3. Be in this state for 20 min

4. Open your eyes and jot down everything that you felt it came with your mission and purpose

5. Wait 48 hours and do the exercise again

6. Take a highlighter pen and read your list very quickly, anything that peaks your interest and touches your heart and highlight it. Compare your lists, they are your purpose and mission

Be in tune with what you want to be doing… right now, at this time of your life.

Use these lists to create your Mission Statement.

Mary’s Mission Statement is: “love, serve, be grateful”

She feels…”I have the time and inclination to love, serve, and be grateful…at this time.”

What is your decade mission statement?

What does it take to live it?

Time Management
The only resource we can’t get more of

Never do anything more than 2 hours; stop! Take a break! Research shows that you need breaks.

It’s not the system, it is that you have one…

5 main tasks a day (3 if your children are small); (your daily routine isn’t factored in here, for example: dishes don’t count)

Budget all of your resources
Energy, Time, Money, Support System, Businesses

Limit yourself to 3 goals, short term, intermediate goal, long term

Enjoy the Journey
Enjoy right now today…schedule the things you really want to do; don’t be so busy with the task that you don’t enjoy it

Mary used to do a “junk food picnic” with her 6 kids once a year, give them each $3 to pick something they want to share with the family and it fulfilled the kids desire to have it…she could say, “let’s save it for our junk food picnic”, but the purpose was to allow her children to have fun…not always be so strict. She also lets herself have “lazy days” where all she does is watches DVDs, eat chocolate and popcorn in her PJ’s ALL DAY!

Do a better job of asking for help!! Whatever stage you are at, you need help of some kind. Don’t be afraid to ask!

Get a cleaning lady! Even if its just your kitchen and bathrooms! Trade cleaning for products/services from your business if you can’t afford it.

Business/Home Cleaning/whatever you need!/Trading, think creatively!

We are all different; celebrate your differences–each others’ differences!